Here I continue to reproduce excerpts from conversations with my
master, from 1982 to 1986)
- Why is there so much tragedy and
misery in the world?
- Tragedy and misery are different
things, and very lengthy subjects. Which would you like to talk
- At the moment, about tragedy. Why
does man suffer?
- Read the Bible and you will find
the following: "that which is good, comes from You, my Lord.
That which is evil, also comes from You, my Lord. Therefore what
is there to fear?"
- Nevertheless, we do suffer.
- Certainly. But take this into consideration:
of every ten problems we have, nine are created by our own selves
- through guilt, self-punishment, self-pity. However, from time
to time a great obstacle appears in our path, which was put there
by God, and which is there for a reason. The reason is: to give
us the opportunity to change everything, to move forwards.
"What is tragedy? A radical change
in our lives, always linked to the same principle: loss. Suffering
is always the result of a loss, either someone or something - such
as health, beauty, or one's financial conditions.
"When faced with a loss, it is
no use trying to recover what has gone. On the other hand, a great
space has been opened up in your life - there it lies, empty, waiting
to be filled with something new. At the moment of one's loss, contradictory
as this might seem, one is being given a large slice of freedom.
"But most men, when faced with
tragedy, fill this space with pain and bitterness. They never think
there may be other ways of facing the inevitable."
- For example?
- Firstly, by learning the great lesson
of wise men: patience, the certainty that everything - both good
and bad - is provisional in this life. Secondly, using this sudden
change of course to risk new things in daily life, to do things
you always dreamed of.
- This is clear regarding material
things. But what about someone's death?
- We have spoken much about death,
and you know that for the one who passes on, it does not exist -
that person is enjoying the delights of a radical transformation.
The sensation of death only exists for the one left here. Every
dear person, upon departing, becomes our protector - after going
through a period of longing, we should be joyful, since we are better
protected. In the same way, one day we will be on the other side,
protecting the people we love down here.
- And those we hate...
- Exactly as you imagine. They remain
tied to us through the feeling of bitterness. That is why Jesus
said: "before going to the temple, go back and forgive your
brother." One must be forever washing one's soul with the water
- But going back to tragedy...
- There is something which is impossible
to measure: the intensity of pain. We know a person is suffering
because they tell us, but we cannot evaluate exactly how much. We
often try to compare someone's attitude upon being faced by a tragedy,
and we end up judging them to be stronger or weaker than they really
are. Do not compare random pain with nothing; only the one suffering
can know what he or she is going through.
"Therefore, when inevitable tragedy
appears, we must remember these three things: to make the most of
the freedom of loss, not to judge the pain, and to learn the art
of patience. It will destroy 9/10 of that which you are, but the
1/10 which remains will make you an infinitely stronger person.